The Question You Need to Ask Yourself When Making Healthy Change

If you’re looking to get healthier, there’s one question that you need to ask yourself. And it’s essential that you really feel into the full answer and your truth. Because the answer — the deep down answer (not the one you think you’re supposed to have or want to have) — can be so telling about your future success in reaching that goal.

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Okay, ready for it?

Do you want to look good? Or do you want to feel good?

Most of us would like both. And there’s wrong with that. Nothing at all. But if you’re only looking to change your appearance, well, we can tell you firsthand that that motivation usually doesn’t last more than a few weeks. And that it’s usually a cover-up for other issues going on.

Until you deal with those other issues and fully come to the change process with a true desire to just feel awesome and love yourself, then you’re just going to keep repeating the cycle over and over again because you actually haven’t addressed the root cause. (For more on possible root emotional causes, read this.)

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So, again. Tell us: Do you want to look good? Or do you want to feel good? Which urge is stronger?

If it’s feeling good, rock on. Continue thinking about all the reasons why you deserve to feel good and how your life will change when you take the steps to love it healthy. And then do the healthy thing.

And if it’s looking good, take a breath. With lots of love, ask yourself why? And then ask why again and again, until you can’t drill down any further. What is the true need there? What’s the part of your soul that’s crying out to be heard? Be brave and explore that.

Girl alone on the bridge

Once you know your why, you can fulfill that need and begin to shift your mindset to making healthier decisions out of a place of self-respect instead of self-hate. It takes time and awareness, but it’s possible. And it’s essential to getting the lasting change that you deserve.

And if you need some help making that transition or getting healthy from that place of self-love, join us here. It’s totally our jam.


ate contributor: Jennipher Walters, co-founder of FitBottomedGirls.com and co-host of the Fit Bottomed Girls Podcast